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Consensual separation with children: what to know to protect everyone

When a couple with children decides to separate, one of the most important choices is how to do so in the least traumatic way possible for all members of the family. Consensual separation with children represents a preferable path when the parents are able to find an agreement on the fundamental issues, in particular on the custody of children in the case of consensual separation and on parental agreements.

How consensual separation with children works

Understanding how consensual separation works is essential to manage the phases of the breakup with awareness. It is a procedure in which the spouses, assisted by a lawyer each or jointly, file an application containing the agreements reached on the custody of the children, the maintenance allowance and the use of the family home. The court, after assessing the consistency of the agreements with the interest of the children, homologates the separation.

Where there are minors, a more careful verification step is provided, since the protection of minors in separation is one of the cornerstones of the family justice system. The judicial authority can modify the agreements if it considers them unsuitable to ensure the well-being of the children.

What to include in parental agreements

The parental agreements and separation define all the essential aspects of the children’s life: time spent with each parent, school choices, healthcare, educational matters, methods of communication and sharing of expenses. The aim is to ensure emotional continuity, stability and consistency in parenthood, even after the end of the couple’s relationship.

The custody of children in the case of consensual separation can be shared or, in exceptional cases, sole. Even where there is shared custody, the prevailing residence of the minor is established on the basis of practical and logistical needs.

Why turn to a professional

The consensual separation and custody of children requires specific skills to be handled correctly and without future surprises. A law firm experienced in family law can accompany the parents in drafting effective agreements, avoiding ambiguity and providing for clauses suited to evolving situations.

Choosing this path means wanting to protect the children and build a new family balance. In these journeys, having alongside someone who knows the matter and can mediate with sensitivity can make the difference. Sometimes, the support of a well-prepared firm is precisely what is needed to face every decision with peace of mind. Knowing that you can rely on those with specific experience in handling these journeys can represent valuable support, especially when the aim is to ensure balance and continuity for one’s children.

Autor

Avv. Francesca Farina

Lawyer, Rome Bar · Boschetti Studio Legale

She graduated in Law at Roma Tre University with a thesis in Family Law and worked with Save the Children on the protection of minors. Specialised in family law, succession and international adoptions, with a Master’s degree in Legal Psychology and Forensic Psychopathology. Since 2024 she has led the family and succession team of Boschetti Studio Legale.

Rome Bar Association

Roma Tre Degree

Save the Children

Master’s in Legal Psychology

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